SHE’S SO “UNUSUAL”..

(elle est si inhabituelle, oui!!!!)

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I carry pictures of my daughters on my phone..

I show them…

My life, BEFORE NYC… included the birthing and raising of two daughters.. both are in their late twenties ..

I am a woman in her fifties… I know this…

I do not claim otherwise ..

I do not need to hear “you don’t look OLD enough to have daughters that age..”

Yeah… I do …

SOCIAL MEDIA, POP CULTURE… And the AMERICAN FEMALE.. “FIXED IDENTITY”

Or WHY …WHY… WHY … we “SUFFER”.. in illusion rather than embrace the FREEDOM we have earned..

SIMPLE..WE FEEL WE MUST “LOOK”… TO BE SEEN..

BEING VALUED.. “MATTERING” .. is the GREATEST NEED.. PERIOD

It’s funny the NEED TO MATTER .. turns us back into “girls” .. asking for permission

PERMISSION TO CHANGE..

Eating Disorders among women over age 45 are common..

The most prevailing one… “BI POLAR” FOOD CONSUMPTION…

( you know.. “KALE” by day… OREOS by night..)

Why? NO ONE IS LOOKING.. so we “think”..

WOMEN are trained to THINK OF THEMSELVES AS. “NO BODY” when “NO ONE” is “there”…

Here’s the TRUTH… YOU ARE SOME BODY… ( because your sense of SELF doe not live in your brain ..). YOUR SENSE OF SELF …WHO YOU ARE…WHAT YOU ARE… is IN THE MIND…

THE MIND….

THE BRAIN IS PART OF THE BODY … YOU (ME). .. We are a BODY AND A MIND..

WE ARE FLUID … everything about us … CHANGES …

BE YOUR “BEST” SELF…

Our “BEST” Self is MENTAL.. period …

Bodies change .. bodies get sick …

We can try ( and we should) to maintain physical health ..

But what happens IF we are diagnosed with a condition.. an illness..

WE HAVE TO CHANGE THAT IDENTITY AND ALLOW OUR MINDS TO TRANSITION ..

A TRANSITIONING MIND IS THE BEST ALLY WE WILL EVER HAVE..

ONE THAT ACCEPTS OUR REALITY AS IT COMES AND GOES…

A TRANSITIONING MIND KNOWS THE SKILL OF SELF COMPASSION..

SELF COMPASSION BUILDS OUR RESILIENCE…

RESILIENCE CALMS THE TRANSITIONING MIND.. TIME AND TIME AGAIN..

“THESE ARE INTERESTING TIMES”…. SAYS THE MIND… AT EVERY “TWIST AND TURN”…

Here is one “MIND TRANSITION” MOVE TO MAKE … BE A FRANCOPHILE …

In France .. the worst thing one can do ( social faux pas ..) is to compliment a woman on her looks …

IT IS ALL ABOUT HER INTERESTS.. her experiences ..her thoughts .. her opinions ..

( and mind you .. French men can be ever so slightly masochistic.. yet.. THIS.. is part of the MINDSET)

EVERYDAY.. UPON RISING.. Say out loud ..

I AM AN INTERESTING WOMAN…

( not tall.. not thin.. not young.. not “old”..)

INTERESTING WOMEN DO INTERESTING THINGS ..

YOUR MIND WILL TRANSITION …

POP ON RED LIPSTICK IF YOU ARE FEELING IT.. ( makes you feel interesting .. )

INTERESTING IS AGELESS..

INTERESTING OVERCOMES THE AMERICAN MIND SET OF “INVISIBLE OVER 45..”

“VOUS ÊTES UNE PERSONNE INTÉRESSANTE .. MAINTENANT ET DES”🇱🇺🇱🇺🇱🇺🇱🇺

( YOU ARE AN INTERESTING PERSON.. NOW … AND YEARS FROM NOW…)