BECOMING STACEY…
STACEY ABRAMS… In all the chaos. and drama of the past week..
Let’s take a moment to CHEER FOR STACEY.
This GEORGIA PEACH organized voters… organized a voter registration that let ALL PEOPLE KNOW… THE GOVERNMENT IS FOR THEM TOO…
Lets face it .. while most of us have been shell shocked in mired in our own
Pandemic confusion … STACEY .. well.. she indeed slapped that “S” on her chest.. She leaped those tall buildings… she helped stop a runaway freight train…
Well… #METOO… PART 2…
“ WE HAD THE POWER.. ALL ALONG…”. (Glenda)
“WE GOT THE POWER..” (some random 1990s dance club tune .. can’t remember the name..)
Women … let’s look at how STACEY works…
“GOING BACKWARDS IS NOT AN OPTION… STANDING STILL..
IS NOT ENOUGH…”. (S. ABRAMS.. TED TALK.. 2018)
THREE QUESTIONS TO ASK OURSELVES WHEN WE ARE “LOST”.. starting over.. beginning again …
- What do I want
- 2. Why do I want it
- 3. HOW am I going to get it
THIS IS ABOUT FIGURING OUT HOW TO MOVE FORWARD
Lets face it … the FIRST TRY AT ANYTHING … SELDOM IS ENOUGH ..
We gain more pieces of our story from each try as we navigate the new space beyond the sadness, lethargy, and , yes.. anger ..
HUMAN EMOTIONS …
Be honest about the SCOPE of your ambitions .. Sure. as shit.. that inner critic or wounded child inside will tell you you never will.. because you don’t deserve it..
We are all young girls into adult bodies… soothe that child..
Let her know you are not leaving her totally behind. She can come along, comfort her.. ( SELF COMPASSION IS A INNER HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE..). Take a moment to spend some time with KRISTIN NEFF…the
Woman who has made it her life mission to EXPLAIN WHY SELF COMPASSION IS THE SUPERPOWER WE HAVE IGNORED…
UNDERSTAND YOUR MISTAKES..
BUT.. UNDERSTAND OTHERS’ MISTAKES TOO..
We are programmed to ask “WHAT DID I DO WRONG?”… important to know..
Add it to the life toolbox… KNOW THIS… OTHERS HAVE THEIR OWN SHIT..
( no matter how hard I tried… my ex husband couldn’t love me… it wasn’t all me..but I took total ownership.. That’s a female thing .. #bornintheUSA..
How many times … IS IT NOT.. ALL YOU?
BE CLEAR..
BE HONEST.. write it down… CLOSE THE BOOK…
“WHAT I WANT”…. get specific.
( not a person, place or thing )
NOTHING BUT YOUR TRUTH IS GOING TO WORK HERE..
WHY… THIS is A VITAL STEP..
WHAT AND DO.. is meaningless without the WHY…
WHY .. Keeps us going .. even when we are afraid or just plain tired..
We NEED A WHY … WE DESERVE A WHY…
HOW?
Ok ..PLAN..
REMEMBER… MOVE FORWARD.. DO NOT GET STUCK IN PERFECT..
PRACTICE BRINGS US CLOSER.. IT NEVER MAKES PERFECT ..
According to S.A., there are THREE THINGS THAT HOLD US BACK
- FINANCES.. Women… generally this is a bit of a mess… but why ? Because we don’t TALK ABOUT IT.. WE CANNOT OVERCOME WHAT WE DO NOT DISCUSS..
STOP SHOPPING ..SAVE YOUR MONEY..
DECIDE YOU DESERVE INVESTORS IN YOUR BUSINESS PLANS AND LIFE GOALS. PARTNERS… ( not enablers).
2. FEAR.. ( OMG… THIS…is my personal kryptonite).
. WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF? ( FAILING.. LOOKING LIKE A FRAUD..
. REPEATING PATTERNS.. )
“ONCE YOU KNOW WHAT SCARES YOU..YOU CAN FIGURE OUT HOW TO GET AROUND IT..”. ( S. ABRAMS)
3. FATIGUE… LETS FACE IT..THINGS CAN GET EXHAUSTING.. EMOTIONALLY
. DRAINING…DEPLETING.. ( pandemic fatigue.. trauma response.. it’s all.
. REAL..
“ FATIGUE IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO EVALUATE… TAKE A NAP.. RETHINK..
. DONT OVERTHINK..”. (S. Abrams)
My “personal” advice .. GO HAVE FUN… FUN IS NOT ALWAYS “WOO HOO!!”
It can be laid back , connecting to anything you need to relax.. rest up..
RELEASE THE TENSION.. ( Running, reading .. conversation .. vibrator.. )
Pick one.. pick them all…
REENERGIZE…
“SOME DAYS..YOU ARE THE BEAR..
SOME DAYS.. YOU ARE EATEN BY THE BEAR”…
( Midwestern America Wisdom)
A BAD DAY DOES NOT MAKE A UNPRODUCTIVE LIFE..
IT MAKES A VERY HUMAN LIFE..
AT THE END OF EACH DAY… END THE DAY…
REMEMBER.. YOU ARE A WORK IN PROCESS.. NEVER COMPLETE..
“MOVE FORWARD BY MILLIMETERS.. OR INCHES.. JUST MOVE FORWARD..”
(STACEY ABRAMS.)
